Mr. & Mrs. Padiyar – we are 1 year old now :P
They say - it’s better late than never. So even though we celebrated our one year of ‘official’ togetherness few weeks back (on Apr 25th) I have finally decided to pen down something about the most anticipated topic :P
It is really amazing how time flies by. I still remember the time when I entered that wedding hall in the morning, a bit nervous yet trying my best not to showcase the same on my face. For a guy who is in his early 25 entering the new phase of life is considered to be a bit early. I mean this is the time when you are gradually settling into life. To be honest, I didn’t have a huge bank balance, had joined a new company just a month ago that too in a new city. Yet, I was ready to take the responsibility of a lifetime! But you know what they say – when it is right, it is right J
And today I am glad that I have err... or shall I say WE have successfully completed the first year which can be sometimes trivial. And now I can say - we are quite confident enough of rowing the boat together throughout our lives.
In every couple, the first anniversary stands to be one of the most important and memorable milestones. Because in one year you will be able uncover most of the hidden or masked features of your companion. No matter how much you know your love, how much you claim to know him/her – you may still be in for a surprise ;) Let me give you a brief insight of our 'day',
Unfortunately, I was totally ill and was very weak. We both had just recovered from bad fever that spoiled all my plans. However, it didn't stop my wife. She did everything to make it a very special day. The day began with her lovely smile followed by a nice hand made gift that really surprised me. It was just the beginning. Another gift which gave our 32" LCD the ability to showcase the movies with a DVD or in a pen-drive. In simple words a DVD player. We couldn't go outside for a nice romantic candle light dinner. Instead, my wife setup a small customized restaurant kinda arrangement in our own bedroom.I had only one thing to say - AWESOME!! It was just awesome. :) It doesn't matter how much you spend for the gifts and other stuffs. What really matters is the effort that you put in to make it special day... what really matters is that you spend the whole day together ;) Everything else are just - add on's. Few things cannot be explained in words... they are better explained in silence... ... ...
Check out my wifey’s blog for the complete story.
I would like to share some of my findings or discoveries of being a married man. This might be useful to those who are planning to get married in some time soon.
- Life after marriage is not a fairy tale. You will have to make adjustments, compromises. As far as you are ready and the adjustments, compromises you make are for your own good – you can turn it into a fairy tale J
will become money-minded. You can’t help it. On everything you spend, your mind
develops a report which reads – EXPENSE! Unlike when you are bachelor where you
spend like anything and yet don’t think over it again. To give you an example,
- When you are a bachelor - you will first check the quality, your liking towards the thing you are looking at and then check the price tag.
- When you are married – You will first check the price tag! Then based on your budget you will either check the quality and develop liking or leave it aside. This is normal, as far as you don’t go beyond the extremes!
- “You save more after marriage” is a myth. At least in the early years of your marriage. So I would recommend all the bachelors to reconsider their saving: expense chart.
- Learn cooking and some household stuffs like washing utensils, cleaning house & washing your cloths… At-least the basics. It comes handy at times. You need not panic when she is sick or is on a strike :P
- Your wife is not your mom. So don’t expect her to do all your chores. Remember one thing, if you do help her in the household u have a great chance of getting some reward ;) Don’t think too much, I meant she might make some special dishes… BTW, what were you thinking ah? :P
- In any arguments, keep your cool. Once it is ended don’t expect the other to make the first move.
- The relation between your mom & wife is something which you have to keep a tab on. How to handle this situation if it goes wrong - is something you have to learn on your own. Don’t expect them to have a good relationship always considering the fact that they don’t know each other as much as you know them. If it does – you are a lucky man J I know what you are thinking now – well in my case I would say – so far so good.
- If you are a sports freak – it will be difficult initially to take some time off to watch your favorite game. Try to develop the same craze in her – which is another mission impossible… Otherwise get involved in her hobbies so that you can get her interest in what you like the most.
- You are bound with responsibilities. In simple words – you will no longer be the ‘khulla saand’ ;) So it is normal to become a bit serious as you will start feeling the heat of life. However, don’t remain serious all the time. You know what they say – paagalpan bhi zaroori hai yaar! So communicate & play pranks with your wife...
Don’t take this as some Gyan. I am sure every married couple will have different experience. And don’t get scared or feel insecure. I mean life after marriage is not HELL like how some people portray… It all depends on how you want it to be. As I told you before only you can make it a fairy tale. After all which fairy tale doesn’t have complications, road blocks and problems? The love should remain the same no matter how bad the situation is. Everything else will then go smoothly. J
hmm.. we both look the same like how we were on our wedding day.. just that I've lost some hair :P